The book teaches that constantly seeking validation or approval from others limits personal growth and prevents true freedom.

The Danger of Seeking Approval

The book emphasizes the importance of living true to yourself, regardless of societal pressures, and embracing the courage to be disliked.

Living Authentically

The past does not determine who you are. You can choose to change your narrative and focus on the present and future, rather than being defined by past experiences.

Reframing the Past

The book encourages readers to take control of their lives, make decisions independently, and not be influenced by past traumas or external factors.

Focus on Self-empowerment

The book presents ideas from Alfred Adler's psychological theory, which emphasizes personal responsibility, the importance of community, and the ability to change.

Based on Adlerian Psychology

Happiness is not something that happens to you, but rather something you choose through your actions and attitudes.

The Role of Happiness

rue happiness comes from contributing to the community and building positive relationships rather than seeking to be liked by everyone.

Interpersonal Relationships

Accepting personal responsibility for your life, choices, and actions leads to true freedom. This freedom allows you to live without being dependent on external circumstances.

Freedom Through Responsibility:

Real change requires the courage to make decisions that might not always be accepted by others, but are essential for personal growth and happiness.

The Courage to Change

One of the main ideas is separating your tasks from others’ tasks. Focus on what you can control and don’t let others' expectations or opinions dictate your actions.

The Concept of Separation of Tasks

The book highlights the idea that individuals have the power to create their own happiness by living authentically, embracing personal responsibility, and rejecting the need for external validation.

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

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Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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