Frequently update your expectations to match reality

☑️ being (state of existence)☠️ having (possession)If you're BEING, you're like a BEE, finding purpose in pollinating flowers, creating honey, and contributing to life's cycle - not because it needs to own things, but because that's its natural state of existence.If you're HAVING, you're like a HAVEN for raccoons - collecting and possessing random things in your personal space.

Adopt a "being" orientation

Routines and rituals provide structure and stability when everything around us is changing. They also serve as a reliable source of voluntary simplicity: the world may be chaotic but I know that every Sunday morning I go for a run."the first rule of routines is to develop one and stick with it; the second rule is to be okay with releasing from it."

Lean on routines (and rituals) to provide stability during periods of disorder

Don’t force meaning and growth; let them come on their own time.

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Pause by labeling your emotions</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Process by practicing non-identification, viewing your situation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Plan by self-distancing and gaining even greater perspective as you evaluate your options</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Proceed by taking micro-steps, treating each as an experiment and adjusting as you go</li></ol>

Respond to change with the 4Ps

"If you find yourself becoming overly attached to any one person, place, concept, or thing, broaden the story you tell yourself about yourself."

When you want to take control and make something happen, the independent lens is your best friend.But when you’re in a chaotic environment, the interdependent lens can help you navigate through it."Remember to think non-dually. Even in a single project, there will likely be moments that benefit from deploying each lens."

View the world with independent and interdependent lenses

Tragic optimism is like a sunflower growing through a skull - Tragic (skull) Optimism (sunflower). The flower doesn't care it's sprouting from something dead; it just keeps reaching for the light while using death as its foundation. The darker the soil, the taller it grows!

Practice tragic optimism, commit to wise hope, and take wise action

If you feel like you’re not quite standing out, here are journaling prompt on how you can become more unique."What pursuits could I start, maintain, or spend more time with?"And for integration,"How can I bring together the different parts of my personality into a well-rounded story?"

Actively differentiate and integrate your sense of self

Use behavioral activation.

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The world is a real puzzle, full of twists and turns. Truth is often found in the middle, not in one extreme or the other.Non-dual thinking is like watching a chameleon on a rainbow. It doesn’t have to choose between being ‘red’ or ‘blue’; it can be ‘reddish-blue’ or ‘blueish-red’, perfectly fine. It’s not about picking sides.Dawn isn’t strictly day or night; it’s a beautiful ‘both/and’ moment where day and night blends.

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'Brad Stulberg is the writer I turn to for examinations of success in all of its personal and professional complexities' - David Epstein Master of Change is offers a captivating and compelling new framework for negotiating our changing world and workplace, and going on to thrive within uncertainty. While we see change as an exception and instability as something to overcome, change is actually an enduring principle of all our lives. Indeed, research shows that, on average, people experience thirty-six major 'disorder events' in the course of their adulthood. The mark of success is how we can flourish not by fighting but by embracing change. Borrowing from the high-performance world of business, resilience-training and mindset-hacking, science and spirituality, philosophy and psychology, bestselling author and coach Brad Stulberg equips the reader with 'rugged flexibility' - a revelatory new framework to help overcome the challenge of change. When we start to implement rugged flexibility, we learn to view change as ongoing cycle of order, disorder, and reorder, and we become adept at thriving in the midst of flux. The result of becoming a master of change is to be less stressed, less anxious and more confident, to experience sustained performance at work and beyond, and be happier and more fulfilled in life.

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