Listening attentively and encouraging others to share their stories makes them feel understood and valued. It also lets you learn what's important to them, which can improve your connection.

7. Be a Good Listener — Encourage Others to Talk About Themselve

The best way to influence others is to see what they want and show how they can get it. Talk about their desires and interests rather than your own to engage their enthusiasm and cooperation.

3. Arouse in the Other Person an Eager Want

Using someone’s name in conversation shows respect and makes the interaction personal. People take pride in their names, so remembering and using them creates instant rapport.

6. Remember that a Person's Name is the Sweetest Sound

Showing respect and genuine appreciation makes others feel valued. When people sense your sincerity, they are more likely to open up, cooperate, and develop lasting friendships.

9. Make the Other Person Feel Important — and Do it Sincerely

Criticizing others only puts them on the defensive and hurts their pride. Instead, try to understand their viewpoints and be empathetic. Approach situations constructively to foster better relationships.

1. Don't Criticize, Condemn, or Complain

Smiling is a simple but powerful way to make people feel comfortable, welcome, and positive. It communicates warmth and friendliness faster than words.

5. Smile

Take a real interest in people’s lives, stories, and feelings. This strengthens trust and connection. When you show you care, others naturally feel drawn to you.

4. Become Genuinely Interested in Other People

People crave appreciation more than praise. When you acknowledge someone's efforts or qualities genuinely, they feel valued and motivated. Make your appreciation specific and heartfelt, never superficial.

2. Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation

People love discussing what matters most to them. By focusing conversations on their interests, you engage their attention and create mutual enthusiasm.

8. Talk in Terms of the Other Person's Interests

Key principles inspired by How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie..

Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

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Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

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