Ask Yourself What You’re Running From

The root cause of our complicated behavior is not that we're bad people or manipulative. We're just afraid of how people would respond if our real intentions would be known.

• This fear can come from our childhood, if our caregivers gave us the impression that there wa...

Instead of rushing towards a solution, we need time to comprehend the problem, how it started, what is the root cause, and what is the actual effect. Redefine the problem until you find the hidden one.

Write down the process if possible, asking questions like what pattern is being noticed,...

An important way of dealing with a difficult emotion is to label it effectively.

Labeling your emotions more accurately helps you understand the cause of those emotions and triggers your ability to set goals and to make real concrete changes.