Changed behaviour is the only apology.Otherwise, it's just manipulation.

Maybe happiness is this: Not feeling like you should be elsewhere, doing something else, being someone else.

Be the person you needed when you were younger.

The black sheep is sometimes the only one telling the truth.

The best relationship is when yesterday's disagreement didn't stop today's communication.

philosophy

Philosophy

personaldevelopment

Personal Development

motivationandinspiration

Motivation & Inspiration

habits

Habits

communication

Communication

Quotes that have made me think

This YouTube video discusses the topic of habits and how to break them. It begins by acknowledging that most people have some sort of habit they would like to stop, such as nail-biting.

Understanding Habits and Breaking Them

Habits are defined as regular behaviors that are performed subconsciously in response to certain environments or cues. These behaviors can range from simple actions like hair-picking to more complex practices ingrained in daily routines.

Defining Subconscious Habits

The video explains that habits form because the brain associates the behavior with a reward, such as the release of dopamine that mediates feelings of pleasure. 
Over time, the brain builds connections linking the reward with the behavior and starts associating the behavior with other cues in the environment. Eventually, the context alone can trigger the habit.

How Habits Form and Reward Connection

While habits can be beneficial, not all of them serve us well. Intentions alone often fail to lead to long-term behavior change. However, by understanding the basis of habits, we can create better plans for changing them.

Changing Habits with Understanding

The video suggests identifying the cues or environments that trigger the habit and modifying them to make it more difficult to perform the habit.

Identifying Triggers and Modifications

For more ingrained habits like nail-biting or hair-pulling, habit reversal training can be helpful. This involves replacing the detrimental habit with a less harmful one.

Reversing Ingrained Habits

For example, keeping a fidget toy at your desk and using it when you feel the urge to bite your nails.
The video concludes by emphasizing that breaking a habit takes time and patience. It also suggests celebrating the good habits that help us in our daily routines.

Tools for Breaking Habits

Explore the psychology behind how good and bad habits are formed, and get tips on how to manage these behaviors.

--

Many people deal with a nail-biting habit at some point in their lives. Some will go to great lengths to try to stop, employing strategies like dipping their hands in salt or wearing gloves. And while not all of us are nail-biters, most of us do have a habit we’d like to kick. So, what's the best way to break one? Explore how habits are formed, and discover tips on how to manage these behaviors.

Directed by Sacha Beeley.

This video made possible in collaboration with Character Lab
Learn more about how TED-Ed partnerships work: https://bit.ly/TEDEdPartners

A special thanks to Wendy Wood who provided information and insights for the development of this video.

Support Our Non-Profit Mission
----------------------------------------------
Support us on Patreon: http://bit.ly/TEDEdPatreon
Check out our merch: http://bit.ly/TEDEDShop
----------------------------------------------

Connect With Us
----------------------------------------------
Sign up for our newsletter: http://bit.ly/TEDEdNewsletter
Follow us on Facebook: http://bit.ly/TEDEdFacebook
Find us on Twitter: http://bit.ly/TEDEdTwitter
Peep us on Instagram: http://bit.ly/TEDEdInstagram
----------------------------------------------

Keep Learning
----------------------------------------------
View full lesson: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/why-is-it-so-hard-to-break-a-bad-habit
Dig deeper with additional resources: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/why-is-it-so-hard-to-break-a-bad-habit#digdeeper

Animator's website: https://www.sachabeeley.com
----------------------------------------------

Thank you so much to our patrons for your support! Without you this video would not be possible! Fernando A. Endo, Helen Lee, pam morgan, sarim haq, Gerardo Castro, Michel-Ange Hortegat, Enes Kirimi, Amaury BISIAUX, ND, Samyogita Hardikar, Vanessa Graulich, Vandana Gunwani, Abdulmohsin Almadi, AJ Lyon, Geoffrey Bultitude, Mi Mi, Thomas Rothert, Brian Elieson, Oge O, Weronika Falkowska, Nevin Spoljaric, Sid Chanpuriya, Anoop Varghese, David Yastremski, Noah Webb, Roberto Chena, Oliver Koo, Luke Pisano, Andrea Gordon, Aleksandar Donev, Nicole Klau Ibarra, Jesse Lira, Ezekiel Raui, Petr Vacek, Dennis, Olivia Fu, Kari Teffeau, Cindy Lai, Rajath Durgada Manjunath, Dan Nguyen, Chin Beng Tan, Tom Boman, Karen Warner, Iryna Panasiuk, Aaron Torres, Eric Braun, Sonja Worzewski, Michael Clement, Adam Berry and Ghaith Tarawneh.

TED-Ed’s mission is to create lessons worth sharing. Feed and expand your curiosity with our award-winning animated shorts - published on YouTube and available with supplemental learning materials on ed.ted.com.

Want to suggest an idea for a TED-Ed animation, nominate an educator or animator? Visit our website at: http://ed.ted.com/get_involved.

Consider backing us on Patreon. By doing so, you directly support our nonprofit mission to create free, high-quality educational content: https://www.patreon.com/teded

For more information on using TED-Ed content for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film, or in an online course), please submit a Media Request using this link: https://media-requests.ted.com/ 


TED-Ed

Why is it so hard to break a bad habit?

What situations come into your mind when you think about discomfort?<ul><li>You would like to contact someone, but don't because you haven't for a long time.</li><li>You would like to share your constructive criticism at work, but don't want to feel rejected.</li><li>Or you would like to be able to pet a dog to start a little talk with the owner, but don't feel certain.</li></ul>That are just some examples for more introverted people like myself, but everyone has their own comfort- and discomfort zones.

Do you have Zone Control?

Discomfort can be caused by a mixture of emotions like<ul><li>Uncertainty - How will someone react to my action?</li><li>Worries - What will someone think about me after taking this action?</li><li>Fear - Will I be rejected, because of taking this action?</li></ul>All subforms of anxiety and shame.

How do you act on your Discomfort?

Anxiety and shame cause a stress response in our bodies. The extent and that's why also the consequences of this stress response depends on our perception.<ul><li>An extrovert might not perceive the earlier mentioned example-situations as stress</li><li>While an introvert might even avoid social situations (fight or flight) in the first place</li></ul>

The consequences of Stress

Do one thing everyday, that scares you. – Eleanor Roosevelt

A quote that can change your Perception*

*in longterm with habitual practice.When we collect more experience with our age, some realise that changing our view, values, habits etc. wasn't and won't ever come easy, but gets harder with age tendentionally.

Children feel less discomfort of taking action, because in their early life stage they are less capable of thinking about the possible scary or emberassing consequences of their actions (less anxiety & shame). Their few life experiences make them less able to anticipate. Instead they focus more on the present than the future.

Why change is easier for Children? 

<ul><li>Introverts think more likely about the consequences, the reactio, of their actions (future focus)</li><li>Extroverts think more likely about the action itself (present focus) or are more stoic about their thoughts focusing possible future outcomes</li><li>Those extroverts who notice a stress response, but react calmly, are more likely to have learned it intentionally with self-awareness.</li></ul>

What's the difference between Introverts and Extroverts?

Do you know Mel Robbins' "5 second rule"?If not, the key is to distract your brain from your discomforting emotions, with her advice by counting from 5 to 1 and then act.It works for some people, because logic (counting backwards) activates different brain regions than when perceiving your emotions, which can get in the way of taking action.

How can that quote change your Perception?

The quote does at least three things to help you being more in the present moment<ol><li>Distracting you from discomfort</li><li>Creating a potential habit of dealing with discomfort</li><li>Additionaly creates self-awareness of what causes your discomfort</li></ol>1. & 2. are the same benefits form the 5 sec rule. I can recommend the Deepstash articles about it ;)

Why considering the Quote?

Being aware of your own perception can help to identify your own emotions better. When you ask yourself in response of the quote – Why am I scared? You rationalise your emotions and question them to be appropriate or not. Your learn more about yourself.

Your growing companion Self-Awareness

When you learn and understand yourself better, you are more considerate and compassionate with yourself.It will be easier for you to find more reasons to act than not to act on your discomfort, because when you repeatly make the decision to overcome it, it might become a habit. Your brain adapts. The stress response reduces and it becomes easier to focus on the present.A best friend gives you good advice, because her/his emotional stress response don't cloud their mind staying rational.Self-awareness in situations of discomfort might help you to become your own best friend.

Your own Best Friend

means - change to become better.If you decide to do one thing a day that scares you, better start small.Small steps of change bring compound success in longterm without being overwhelmed quickly, because your brain gets the time to adapt to your new strategy to turn active cognitive chosen changes into passive automated habits.

Kaizen

Mastery doesn't come overnight. Mastery takes time.A basic principle is – The more time you spend on something, the more competence you grow in that area.Documenting the situations, where you overcame your discomfort with grattitude briefly and daily in a notebook increases the amount of practice to consolidate your initial change into a habit with thought structured writing.

Hone your progress of Change

The quote in this article changed the way I perceive and act on my zone of discomfort. Today, discomfort is my emotional indicator for where I still have or want to grow. But I try to avoid becoming an self-optimisation addict (other form of stress compensation).Before habitually or blindly acting on every discomfort, you can ask yourself, does it make me happier overcoming it?I'm happy to be an introvert, because it has benefits and that fits my values.Self-awareness can also help you evaluating every change you plan to make based on your own definition of happiness.

Note – Self-reflection

What works for my zone control doesn't have to work for you. We all come in diversity. Remember this before you comment. I just share my personal experiences and don't guarantee anything. With that in mindThank you for your understanding and your attention!

Comfort - Inaction - Inexperience - Inability.Discomfort - Action - Experience* - Ability.*incl. failures

Choose your Takeaway Mindset-Cycle

This article adresses a possible approach of getting more life-control about discomfort causing situations. It covers the importance of perception as a key for change and integrates common concepts like the "5 second rule", self-awareness, habitualization, "Kaizen" and self-reflection, while contrasting an introverted mindset with an extroverted one.

Understand yourself and those around you.

psychology

Psychology

mindfulness

Mindfulness

mentalhealth

Mental Health

Mastering Discomfort: Your Journey to Self-Improvement

Instead of juggling tasks haphazardly, <a href="https://productive.fish/blog/time-blocking/">time blocking method</a> encourages us to divide specific blocks of time for particular tasks. It's more than just planning; it's about ensuring our efforts align perfectly with our goals.

Time Blocking is NOT about Blocking Yourself

Begin by listing every task, big or small. Once you have it all out, arrange tasks by importance and deadline. Next, group similar tasks or those that complement each other. For instance, all your email-related tasks can be clubbed together. It's all about maximizing focus.

 List – Prioritize – Group

Now, for each task or group of tasks, predict how long they might take. This isn't about being exact but being realistic. It's okay to set buffer times. Remember, it's better to overdeliver than to rush.

Estimate Task Duration

With durations in hand, start assigning blocks on your calendar. Think of it like building a puzzle; find the best fit for each piece. Be sure to include not just work but everything—breaks, lunch, even "me-time." The idea is to have a holistic view of your day.

Create Time Blocks

Reflect is the keyword. After you've tried <a href="https://productive.fish/blog/time-blocking/">time blocking</a> for a bit, look back. Were there tasks that consistently ran over? Any blocks that felt too short or too long? Refinement is essential. Remember, this method is about adapting to get the best results, not rigidly sticking to what first was set.

Review and Update

By expanding your approach to time blocking, you're not just scheduling tasks. You're building a customized strategy to maximize every moment of your day. With #TimeBlocking, you're in the driver's seat of your time. Buckle up and ride toward higher productivity! 🚀📈

Remember, the path to efficiency is a journey, not a destination. With #TimeBlocking, you’re well on your way!

Take control of your time with the time blocking method. Organize your schedule like a pro and boost productivity.

productivity

Productivity

remotework

Remote Work

problemsolving

Problem Solving

timemanagement

Time Management

Organize Your Schedule with Time Blocking Method

I’m not motivated. It’s discipline. Understand the difference and it will cut some of your excuses out. Motivation is not an excuse when you don’t need it to do anything.

Where (or When) motivation fails, discipline prevails.

5,471 likes, 68 comments - danalinnbailey on February 5, 2023: "I’m not motivated. It’s discipline. Understand the difference and it will cut some of your ex..."

exerciseandfitness

Exercise & Fitness

Motivation And Discipline

Train for yourself.Don't train to lose weight. Don't train for a 6 pack. Don't train for a big booty. Don't train for a pumped chest.Train to play with your kids when you're older. Train to pick up your groceries comfortably. Train to walk up the stairs by yourself. Train for good posture. Train to prevent injuries. Train to manage your anxiety. Train to walk without a cane when you're older. Train to sit and stand up without anyone's help. Train to be independent for as long as possible.Train for the bigger picture. The real goal.And if you do, aesthetics will follow.

Train for the bigger picture. The real goal. 

Train for yourself.
.
Don&#39;t train to lose weight!
Don&#39;t train for a 6 pack!
Don&#39;t train for a big booty!
Don&#39;t train for a pumped chest!
Train to play with…

food

Food

Mohamed Safwat on Training: Train For Yourself

I'm posting this message to all the members,I'm loving Deepstash a lot. And the upcoming updates are excellent 🙌. This app is not only providing us with information but also knowledge of books it helps me to remember the point💯. The idea of this app is genuine and superb. Nowadays reading the whole book is not possible but Deepstash made it manageable for you👍. Since I joined Deepstash I've worked with many books that keep us updated all the time🎉. The best part of this app is Streak, It forces us to open the app and read so that we can maintain the reading streak👍😍Thank you, Deepstash ✨

Deepstash 

marketingandsales

Marketing & Sales

education

Learning & Education

The app is wonderful 

Many of us are guilty of assuming we'll be happy when we hit milestones; from buying a house to securing a promotion to getting engaged, but positive psychology consultant Casey Paul explains we don't have to wait to be happy.Casey explains that we can actually make every day happier by making simple tweaks to our daily activities.

🌤️ How elevating the everyday can make us happier?

"Happiness is not this elusive destination that you will finally 'arrive at' when X, Y, Z happens. So many people see happiness as a place they will get to, imagining it as a future state, achievable only when certain conditions are met."

Casey explains that her clients often name things that are easily achievable, such as spending more time in nature, waking up earlier or seeing friends more. Despite these easy-to-achieve things, Casey says people are still waiting for the perfect time to be happy, rather than making the changes.She explains that if we start making things we do every day a little bit more magical, we'll automatically live a happier life.

🌅 How to make every day happier?

"Instead of waiting to do these things ‘when you’re happy’, if you start doing them now and really embody that version of yourself now then your whole reality will shift quickly," Casey reassures."There are things that we do each day in life that may feel like chores, but re-framing them will amp up your happiness. Everyday experiences and ordinary moments can be enriched to elevate your everyday," Casey says.

🧘‍♀️ Positive Psychology Consultant Casey Paul suggests...

Hacking your way to happiness means you need to check in with yourself to ensure you are making the moments matter and living like you already have all the happiness you desire.5 ways to elevate your everyday<ol><li>Slow down,</li><li>Declutter your space,</li><li>Make every day a special occasion,</li><li>Embrace positivity boosters,. &</li><li>Gamify your life.</li></ol>

🐚 How to elevate your everyday?

Stop rushing through life. Start being proactive with your time and go through your days with more intention and presence, savoring the moments.

🐌 Slow Down.

“Shifting the mind into lower gear can bring better health, inner calm, enhanced concentration and the ability to think more creatively.”

“The slow philosophy is not about doing everything in tortoise mode. It’s less about the speed and more about investing the right amount of time and attention in the problem so you solve it.“

Clear up your environment, get rid of the clutter and create a beautiful environment at home that inspires you.

🗑️ Declutter your Space.

If your house is really a mess and a stranger comes to the door, greet him with, ‘Who could have done this? We have no enemies.

Stop waiting for special occasions and celebrations to light the fancy candle, wear your favourite shoes, sip your coffee from a boujee mug, buy the flowers. Make every day a special occasion.

💃🏼 Make every day a special occasion.

Add positivity boosters to your everyday activities such as showering, driving, cooking, drinking.You could :<ul><li>Turn your shower experience into a spa experience by adding essential oils you love,</li><li>Listening to an inspirational podcast on a drive you always do,</li><li>Trying new recipes and creating themed dinner nights ensuring you lay the table properly for a luxury dining experience when you cook,</li><li>While sipping on your morning coffee, you could tie it in with writing a list of things you’re grateful for. </li></ul>

🍀 Embrace positivity boosters.

“Oh! Old rubbish! Old letters, old clothes, old objects that one does not want to throw away. How well nature has understood that, every year, she must change her leaves, her flowers, her fruit and her vegetables, and make manure out of the mementos of her year!”

Make boring tasks more engaging by setting up rewards or challenges for yourself. Turn the mundane into a game to make it more fun.

🎲 Gamify your life.

My Personal Opinion is to don't keep us challenging in every next task you doing, don't keep yourself harassing or giving yourself mental torture, understanding that <a href="https://deepstash.com/article/184567/less-is-more-for-simplicity">doing less is more</a>, understanding that success is our point of view and success is what we give our fortuning morning sleep to some basic morning study/work routine.You can visit on my Twitter/X Account <a href="https://twitter.com/saoirseblr?t=JgpLhZHIr3L0oPumKkdwQw&s=09">by clicking on this link.</a>Find More Stashes :<ol><li><a href="https://deepstash.com/article/181508/unlocking-the-hidden-dimensions-of-intelligence">Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Intelligence.</a></li><li><a href="https://deepstash.com/article/170417/the-power-of-unwavering-focus">The Power of Unwavering Focus.</a></li></ol>

💌 Hope you find yourself in more happier place than before.

In doing this you will cultivate so many more high-vibe positive emotions, which support your health, strengthen relationships, help you be more engaged in tasks and achieve more as a result - all of which are key pillars to live your happiest life.

Positive psychology consultant Casey Paul explains how elevating the everyday can make us happier

travel

Travel

books

Books

meditation

Meditation

5 Ways to Make Every Day Special

Create a checklist of tasks for the day and check them one by one when you are done with each task. It will give you mental satisfaction.

1. Create a Morning Checklist 

When you take a break your mental map will be lost and you have to recover what's the logical things you are working on.

2. Don't Take Break ( When you do coding)

<ol><li>Drink Water</li><li>Little Physical activity in break.</li></ol>

3. Stay hydrated or Keep Your eyes hydrated.

When you take a lunch break or any in-session break try to watch knowledgeable things.

4. No social media break

Take challenging tasks which are outside of your current scope of work.

5. Leave time for learning 

All the meetings stack together so you can break at that time and at other times you can focus on coding.

6. Stack meeting together 

The result matters other than how you are showing your work.

7. Less show of more work

https://harkirat.classx.co.in/

Learn simple tricks and tips that help me stay focused, keep my energy up, and make progress on my projects, all while enjoying every minute of programming. Whether you're a beginner or a seasoned developer, these easy-to-follow strategies can help you boost your coding productivity and enjoyment

00:00 Introduction
00:25 Point No.1
01:33 Point No.2
03:00 Point No.3
04:02 Point No.4
05:17 Point No.5
06:53 Point No.6
07:36 Point No.7
09:02 Conclusion
09:35 BTS

Links

https://twitter.com/kirat_tw
https://linkedin.com/in/kirat-li
https://www.instagram.com/kirat_ins/
https://discord.com/invite/WAaXacK9bh

health

Health

softwareengineering

Software Engineering

I'm kirat, a 2018 Computer Science undergrad from IIT Roorkee. I've been part of Google's Summer of code twice and have worked at FANG, Finance and Startups over the last 4 years since graduating. 
I have a knack of film making and was heavily into it back in college, this channel is a way for me to keep that part of me alive.
This channel will take you through my journey of learning about Tech jobs, how you too can crack them and which career path might be best for you based on your goals and ambitions


Harkirat Singh

How I CODE For HOURS With NO Breaks

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Get a killer core with these simple and effective home workout exercises that build strength and endurance in your upper and lower abdominals. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">As an aerialist, your core strength is a vital part of your performance in the air, making inversions, climbs and hangs easier than ever! </li></ul>

Build Killer Core Strength At Home 

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Rock the boat, also known as dishing is a good challenge for both your upper and lower abs. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Start in a high boat pose with knees parallel to the floor or just seated with your back slightly rounded. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Then begin to lift your legs and lean back even more. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">For an added challenge, start to rock forwards and backwards keeping all of your body engaged. </li></ul>

1. Rock the Boat

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Begin seated with your knees bent, and as slowly as you can, roll down through the spine. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you are ready, roll back up nice and slowly. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">At the top, twist your torso to the right and roll down again and then come back up. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Repeat on the left. </li></ul>

2. Rolling Sit Up

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">A block makes this one a little easier!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sit with a block on each side of your hips.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Press into the block and lift your hips off the ground while engaging your core, and try to bring your legs with you!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Another options is, to start on your knees and lif your knees and feet off the floor. </li></ul>

3. L-Sit Lifts

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Begin seated on your sit bones and lift up your legs. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Start by tucking your knees into your chest, then extend your legs and lie down taking your arms overhead. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">As you sit up, straddle your legs and bring your arms through the centre. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Repeat! </li></ul>

4. Tuck, Straddle, Pike

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Begin seated with your legs straddled, or you can have 1 leg bent to make it easier. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Lift one leg in towards your chest and release back down. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Even if you can't get the lift, you can still engage the muscles and the lift will come with time. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">To take it 1 step further, you can place a block by your leg and lift your leg over the block and back again. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Try to keep your spine straight and core engaged. </li></ul>

5. Single Leg Straddle

Building a strong abs / having core strength is extremely important not just for aerialist 

CircAsana faciliates yoga teacher trainings, acro yoga & aerial yoga retreats and performances, to inspire creative confidence and happy, purposeful living.

sports

Sports

The Best Ab Exercises for Aerialists

Find 100+ Facts About Habits  - Curated from inspiring sources like Books, Podcasts & Articles - Genuine Insights from like-minded Users like You!