Spending Time is the first ever step to falling in love.The more of quality time you spend with your notes....deeper will grow the bond...

How To Fall In Love With "Studying"?

Every subject, topic or sub-topic may demand a different technique of studying. So avoid the monotony of just reading...and get creative with good study techniques like:1. Memory palace2. Mind maps3. Flash cards4. The Question Approach5. Example oriented etc

Methods

I know I sound dumb, but hear me out for once.(I have tried it) (but still many will diagree)I am damn motivated to sit for an extra hour of study if I have my favourite set of color pens, highlighters & post it's. So sometimes being materialistic can crave you to study more :)

Be Materialistic

Being perfect at studying is impossible. So have benchmarks for yourself to pose an image of perfection in your mind.For eg: I am done, if I complete this chapter before noon.

Create The Illusion Of Perfection

"A man is known by the company he keeps""He becomes like the people he's surrounded by". If company has such a huge impact, then why not surround with people better than you at studying?If you avoid socializing, atleast try following good study with me youtube channels to join their live sessions.

Surround With Pros

We tend to forget why we started.Once you recall why you started the course, you will be internally motivated to achieve that procrastinated task.Romanticizing will become a waste of time then;)

Ans The "WHY"

The more you stretch the more it'll get flexible.Being romantic with studies is not as hard as it sounds. Practicing daily on fixed times can help create a connection with a subject you hate lately

Stretching

1. Try focusing on reproduction of learning....to be exam ready.2. Don't waste money on candels/other sh*t....instead create ambiance by keeping your study space clean.3. Try ambient music/ natural soundtracks for asthetic focus.4. Join study communities like "Study together", "Forest", etc.

Pro Tips

If you gotta do it anyways, then why not do it with a smile?

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How to romanticize studying?

You need to do more than just turn off your phone.It involves being fully present in that moment.Don't think about yesterday or what you'll do tonight, or what you should say next.You can either fully listen to the person or leave the conversation.

1. Don't Multitask

Conversations aren't blogs where you state your opinion without comments from others.Assume you have something to learn in every conversation.The best way to truly listen to someone is to set yourself aside and listen as if they know something you do not.

2. Don't Preach

Start your questions with:Who?Why?What?When?Where?or HowIf you ask, "were you terrified?" you will receive a one-word answer.If you ask, "what was that like?" you will get a thoughtful, meaningful answer.

3. Use Open-Ended Questions

There will be thoughts that pop into your head; your job is to let them go.There is no need to say everything that comes to mind, and you do not need to wait for "just the right time."Let your thoughts come and go without judgment.

4. Go With The Flow

This principle is straightforward.Be very careful talking about things that you're not an expert at.It is better to err on the side of caution.Pretend you'll be on the record and held accountable for your words.Don't make things up.

5. If You Don't Know, Say It.

If they talk about losing a loved one, don't talk about when your mom died.If they're discussing their problems, don't discuss your own issues.It is not always about you, so avoid bringing the conversation back to you.

6. Don't Equate Your Experience With Theirs

Repetition is condescending and boring.People usually do this when they have a point to make, and they say it repeatedly.Don't do that.It's not enjoyable for anyone.

7. Don't Repeat Yourself

People don't care about the years, names, dates, and times you struggle to remember.They care about you, what you're like, what you have in common, and how you feel, not every minor detail.Leave them out; the conversation will be much more enjoyable.

8. Stay Out Of The Weeds.

Listening is the number one skill you can learn.But listening is hard.We would rather talk.Talking is easy; we're in control and the center of attention.It takes effort to pay attention to someone.But if you're not, then you're not having a conversation.

9. Listen

Be interested in others.Keep your mouth shut as often as you can, and keep your mind open as much as you can.When you talk to someone, be prepared to be amazed.They have something unique, strange, or fun about them; you just have to let them share it.

10. Be Interested.

10 things emotionally intelligent people do to create powerful conversations:

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10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Do to Create Powerful Conversations

1. You'll wake up one day with acceptance instead of self pity.

2. You'll realise that love is an energy that can be given to romance as well as family.

3. You'll realize that passion is an emotion that can be given to your lover as well as your creative work.

4. You'll realize that even the deepest, most heartfelt heartbreak can be dealt with, if your mind contains hope.

5. You'll be wiser thanks to your healing and stronger thanks to the pain you hated so much.

6. You'll extract smiles & stories from the same flashbacks that once gave you scars & sorrow.

7. You'll eventually experience the joy that forgiveness brings.

9. You'll start extracting hope from romantic movies & song once again. Even the ones that had started hurting you all of sudden

10. You'll become a better lover & more importantly you'll become a kinder soul.

Lose everything, but never lose your sense of hope. Trust me it gets better.❤

When you give yourself time & sleep in order to heal, you realize... ( Credit to BeerBiceps )

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Things I wish I knew, when I was in Pain!

"And in the endThe love you takeIs equal to the love you make"

The Beatles - The End (1969)

"It's on America's tortured brow That Mickey Mouse has grown up a cow Now the workers have struck for fame 'Cause Lennon's on sale again."

David Bowie - Life On Mars? (1971)

When routine bites hard and ambitions are lowAnd resentment rides high but emotions won't growAnd we're changing our ways, taking different roadsThen love, love will tear us apart again."

Joy Division - Love Will Tear Us Apart (1980)

"Punctured bicycle... on a hillside desolate Will nature make a man of me yet?"

The Smiths - This Charming Man (1983)

“I don’t have to sell my soul / He’s already in me.”

The Stone Roses - I Wanna Be Adored (1989)

"So I'll start a revolution from my bedCause you said the brains I had went to my headStep outside, summertime's in bloomStand up beside the fireplaceTake that look from off your faceYou ain't ever gonna burn my heart out."

Oasis - Don't Look Back In Anger (1995)

"Rows of houses, all bearing down on meI can feel their blue hands touching me."

Radiohead - Street Spirit (Fade Out) (1995)

"Libraries gave us power Then work came and made us free What price now for a shallow piece of dignity?"

Manic Street Preachers - A Design For Life (1996)

"All this talk of getting oldIt's getting me down my loveLike a cat in a bag, waiting to drownThis time I'm comin' down."

The Verve - The Drugs Don't Work (1997)

"I'll be the corpse in your bathtubUselessI'll be as deaf as a postIf you hold me like a newbornWhisper what you feelMy badly strung declarationTo you."

Elbow - Newborn (2001)

"Jealousy, turning saints into the sea Swimming through sick lullabies Choking on your alibis"

The Killers - Mr Brightside (2003)

"Time on your side it'll never end The most beautiful thing you can ever spend But you work in a shirt with your name tag on it Drifting apart like a plate tectonic."

Kaiser Chiefs - Oh My God (2004)

"An ending fitting for the start You twist and tore our love apartYour light fingers threw the darkThat shattered the lamp and into darkness it cast us."

The Libertines - Can't Stand Me Now (2004)

"She tried to peel me off the pavement Tried to insinuate sometimesI am in danger of going too far Asked me would I like to go for tea and toast."

Courteeners - Not Nineteen Forever (2007)

"You spent the evening unpacking books from boxesYou passed me up so as not to break a promiseScattered Polaroids and sprinkled words around your collarIn the long run, you said you knew that this would happen."

Maxïmo Park - Books From Boxes (2007)

"You used to get it in your fishnets Now you only get it in your night dress Discarded all the naughty nights for niceness Landed in a very common crisis."

Arctic Monkeys - Fluorescent Adolescent (2007)

"A falling star fell from your heart and landed in my eyesI screamed aloud, as it tore through them, and now it's left me blind."

Florence + The Machine - Cosmic Love (2009)

“With these meaningless conversations Well I’ll tell you they test my patienceAnd maybe we could be friends.”

Wolf Alice - Beautifully Unconventional (2016)

Exemplary songwriting, when executed with precision, transcends into the realm of exquisite poetry. Among the noteworthy compositions spanning the years 1969 to 2016, I hold a particular appreciation for the lyricism of iconic bands such as the Beatles, the Smiths, and Arctic Monkeys etc.

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Any fool can have a child. That doesn't make you a father. It's the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Irresponsible Father: Zero involvement with his kids and is completely out of this kid's life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Ignorant Father: He doesn't try to learn or get through his brokenness and passes his faults to his children.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Inconsistent Father: Is selfish and prioritizes his job, career, and hobbies over his children.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Involved Father: The type to show up to sporting events and takes the time to put porn filters in the kid's devices. He gets a lot of things right but fails to go deeper.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Intentional Father: A man with a plan who is deeply invested in helping his kids fulfill their true purpose.</li></ul>

There Are 5 Types Of Fathers

A man is an image bearer and song of God entrusted with power and the responsibility to create, cultivate, care, and defend, for God's glory and the good of others.

Come up with your own vision as a father for what you want to impart on your son on the day he leaves your home. <ol><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you want your son to know?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Who do you want him to be?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you want him to be able to do?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What experiences do you want him to have? </li></ol>

Prepare For The Day Your Son Leaves

We need to have a vision of the day our sons will leave our homes and work backward from that day with a plan to help them gain the knowledge, skills, character, and experiences they need.

The Intentional Father provides practical steps to help men raise sons of consequence.  It lays out a clear path for fathers and sons, including specific activities, rites of passage, and significant marking moments.

Self-initiation is killing our young men. Without strong mentors, boys are walking alone into a wilderness of conflicting messages about who they should be as men. It's no wonder that our sons are confused about what the world expects from them and what they should expect of themselves. The Intentional Father is the antidote. This concise book is filled with practical steps to help men raise sons of consequence--young men who know what they believe, know who they are, and will stand up against the negative cultural trends of our day. Jon Tyson lays out a clear path for fathers and sons that includes specific activities, rites of passage, and significant "marking moments" that can be customized to fit any family. It's not enough to hope our sons will become good men. We need them to be good at being men. This book shows how fathers, grandfathers, and other male mentors can lead the way.

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Karpman’s Drama Triangle defines unhealthy relationships where individuals take on different roles: Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim. These roles are fueled by guilt and blame.<ul><li>Persecutor: blames and criticizes others</li><li>Rescuer: enables and takes care of others</li><li>Victim: feels powerless and blames others</li></ul>

Karpman Drama Triangle

Learn to shift from being a victim to being self-aware and compassionate. Move away from being a rescuer to finding balance and taking care of yourself.
Key Lessons:
<ul>
 <li>Not being a victim but standing up for yourself</li>
 <li>Being vulnerable without being a victim</li>
 <li>Caring without being too involved</li>
</ul>
Living beyond the Drama Triangle means managing your boundaries, having self-agency, and valuing yourself. Find the sweet spot of being self-aware and acting from a mature mindset.

Shifting from Drama Triangle Roles

To be mentally free, recognize the patterns that keep you playing the victim, persecutor or rescuer.🧠 Awareness: Notice your common reactions to avoid being trapped in the drama triangle.<ul><li>Pause: Take a moment before impulsively responding to a situation. 🛑</li><li>Refuse: Don't let yourself be controlled by others. 👊</li><li>Avoid: Steer clear of losing battles and unreasonable arguments. 🚫</li></ul>

Step out of the Drama Triangle

We all have the power to stop the drama in our relationship and take control. Let's stop the cycle of superiority and inferiority. Stop being a victim by taking these actions:<ol><li>Stop acting like 'poor me': don't ignore your own needs and don't always take the blame.</li><li>Recognize your role in the relationship: accept that you need to change.</li><li>Face your fears: confront the issues that are causing the drama.</li><li>Take better actions: don't let the drama consume you and your relationships.</li></ol>Remember, taking control of the drama does not mean you care any less about people.

Stop The Drama

If you've ever found yourself trapped in a personal Drama Triangle, you will already know how detrimental it can be to relationships. But it also rears its ugly head in a business context, and it's something well worth watching out for.

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About the Drama Triangle – And how to escape it

When meeting someone new, be open to getting to know them.When you learn something about that person, don't compare yourself to them and don't be quick to judge.

Assume The Best About New People

If someone does something that makes you irritated or angry, don't blow up on them. Try to imagine what they are feeling and be more empathetic.Treating others with kindness is easier than you think if you just pause and take a breath.

Give Them The Benefit Of The Doubt

When you encounter someone else that has contradicting beliefs or motives, try to imagine yourself from their point of view.Ask yourself: Why would they think that?Understand where they are coming from and you will become a much more empathetic person.

Imagine Yourself in Their Shoes

Learning to stand in somebody else's shoes, to see through their eyes, that's how peace begins. And it's up to you to make that happen. Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world.

One thing to note as a person is how you sound when you talk. It's better talking face to face rather than texting because of tone. Tone matters a lot. You could tell someone:"Your coat looks nice"And that person could perceive that as either being genuine or sarcastic, depending on your tone.Be mindful of your tone and how you sound, and that will make you a better person in general.Also keep in mind that other people may say something rude, but it might not be intentional. If they aren't blatantly insulting you, try giving them the benefit of the doubt.

Tone

If you've just reached the end of this post, know that you are already a more empathetic person. You've taken the steps to become a better person, and in the process, might have become a happier, more loving person. Enjoy life and spread joy! Thanks for reading!

The End

Quick tips to become friendlier and more empathetic

"Your self-worth sets the standard for the love you invite into your life."

"Be a masterpiece of self-love, and watch as others paint their affection accordingly."

"The love you cultivate within reflects the gardens of love you'll blossom in."

"Radiate self-love; it's the magnet that attracts genuine affection."

"Treat yourself with the love you deserve, and others will follow your lead."

"The love you give yourself becomes the melody that others dance to in your presence."

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Love yourself a bit more

Did you know that you look pretty? Look at others around you. You'd definitely find someone's body shape, eye, skin, or any part of body not attractive. Now compare that with the same body part of yours. See?

You Are Beautiful 

Even a flower that blooms beside a road sparks a flow of joy in our hearts. And the beautiful "you";do the same to others as well. You are beautiful, you are pretty, you are important. There's someone who didn't get to live today. But you did.

You Matter!

This is a post I'm sharing to tell you some facts about youself!

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YOU!

This involves no complaining, gossiping or criticising for 21 days. If you slip, you have to start all over againYou can go a step further by shunning any negative thoughts which germinate in your mind. And sticking to positive thinking.

21-Day No Complaint Challenge 

Screen sabbatical, i.e. no technology usage, one day of the week can work wonders. It will improve your efficiency and make you more grounded and connected to your loved ones and nature.

Tech Free Saturday 

Instead of saving monthly, one can save weekly. One can save at least 30% of weekly income or maybe more It will give a sense of relief as a week passes by quickly and savings accumulated gives dopamine hits to save more. Moreover it helps in better planning of the u foreseen circumstances because missing to save for a week would have less impact if one misses to save for a month.

52-week Money Challenge

Those following will have to get rid of one item on the first day and 2 items on the second day and so on. By this one can de clutter physical and mental space, thereby simplifying life

30-Day Minimalism 

Moving the charger out of your room will have cascading effect on your entire day. One has to go out of the room to switch off the alarm upon waking up, leading to more saved time throughout day and less grogginess.

3-day Phone Charger Method 

Basically it involves <ul><li>Two 45 minutes workouts a day, one indoor and outdoor. </li><li>Drink 4-5 litres of water</li><li>Read 10 pages per day of a non-fiction book. </li><li>Strict diet, with no junk food</li></ul>One can adapt it to one’s own need, like a student can add 4 hours of studying or a working professional can give some time to a side hustle or increase quality family time.

75-Hard Challenge 

Writing in the morning to de clutter your mind and it’ll help you to understand yourself better and analyse your problems or life in general better. You can write your daily tasks a night before with this which will keep you motivated. This challenge will give you the requisite willpower to achieve your goals.

Morning Pages (Journaling)

These challenges will help you to build the strength and courage needed to become your greatest self. You need not follow all the challenges at once. You can go for one or multiple challenges at a time.

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